Why Abstinence is the Best Choice for Teens in the Prevention of Teenage Pregnancy

Ladies and gentleman, I’m here to discuss the reason why abstinence is the best choice for teens in the prevention of teenage pregnancy. It has come to my attention that teens today have the idea that sex outside of marriage is okay, and they’re dead wrong. Yet we allow them to go to R-rated movies, see billboards of women half naked, and even let them have unsupervised access to the internet. The only reason kids today are having sex outside of marriage is because we allow them to do all that stuff.

In the Bible it says in Exodus 20:14, “Thou shall not commit adultery,” meaning no sex outside of marriage. The word abstinence means abstaining from some or all food, liquor, etc.

I bet you’re wondering where I’m going with this and how I know so much about why abstinence is the best choice for teens in the prevention of pregnancy. There’s a good reason, because I am one of the many people who have abstained from having sex outside of marriage. Abstaining from sex outside of marriage allows you to be able to have a future. Here are some examples of what I mean: you’ll be able to get an education, go to college, get the career you’ve always wanted, and then get married and have a happy life with your wife and kids.

Let’s say that you go ahead and have sex and your girlfriend ends up pregnant. Now you’re a father, you can’t go to school, you have to work to support a family, and you’re busy all the time. Ouch!

I bet people that lived way before us would be shocked at the things we allow our kids to do these days. You know and I know that if parents today taught their kid why abstaining from sex is better than having sex outside of marriage and stuck with it, kids would be less likely to have sex outside of marriage.

Have you ever watched Oprah Winfrey and Montel Williams and actually listened to what they have to say about why having sex outside of marriage is bad. Well, I have and it’s very useful and true. Hear me when I say that no matter what race you are, your age, if you’re poor, or rich, if you abstain to prevent teen pregnancy you’re better than those who tell you to have sex before you’re married because you’ll be happier than they are when you get married. Can you imagine if kids today listened to what people told them about why sex is bad at an early age what a difference it would make?

I’m thinking that there should be more of an effort to reach out to kids and tell them to abstain from sex at early age. It disgusts me to know that kids are being left in the dark about sex before marriage. Yet, I’d shake the hand of a parent that was smart enough to go up to their kids and say, “Kids, abstaining from sex will help you prevent teen pregnancy and help you in the future.” I say to you, America would be better if we just told our kids about how to prevent teen pregnancy.

If we just stood up and said that the world would be better if teens abstained from sex, and we talked to someone about how we felt about teen pregnancy. Hopefully, someone would listen. There’s a billboard where I live that says, “Pregnant and Scared Call 1-800-Get-Help,” but I have a book that’s called “Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating.” The book talks about what to do if you get pregnant at an early age. On pages 102-103 a girl writes and says, “Hey, Terra, my boyfriend and I think we’re ready for sex, but how can we tell for sure? Ready.”

Terra replied, “Dear Ready, Before doing anything, ask and answer the following questions (you may want to write the answers down so you can think about them later, too): How do you think sex will change this relationship? How might it change the way you feel about your boyfriend? How might it change how he feels about you? Do you completely trust your boyfriend and his feelings for you? Does he completely trust you and your feelings for him? Are you willing to risk pregnancy and/or getting a sexually transmitted disease? How will you feel about yourself if you become sexually active? If you have sex, how will you feel if the relationship ends (which it probably will eventually, because most teen relationships do)? What expectations will your boyfriend have after you “do it”? (Will he expect to have sex whenever you’re alone? Will he be jealous if you talk to other guys?) The best way to get the answers is to ask these questions is to ask him directly.

As you can see, there are lots of questions to consider, and you’re the only one who can answer them. So, take your time to think things over. A healthy decision is one that’s 100 percent right for you and the person you’re thinking of having sex with. Be sure to ask yourself what your values really are. Listen to your inner voice!” In friendship, Terra
I go to a Christian school called Pathway Christian Academy that teaches us the truth about what God says about having sex outside of marriage. I’m an 18 year old and I understand the consequences of having sex outside of marriage, but still I learn more every day about why it’s best to stay away from sex at such a young age.

We focus on stuff like war and American troops being sent to Iraq, but what we don’t focus on is the fact that our children are out there having sex at such early ages. It’s as if we are blind to the fact that abstaining from sex is good, yet we allow our children to use profanity, do drugs, and get drunk. I bet if we can get our kids to be able to listen to what we say, it would affect the world more than we think it would. Our God set up a standard for us and all we’ve done is wad it up in a ball, chew it up, and spit it in His face. You know why we’ve done that? Because we are too blind to see that His standard is not that hard for us to be able to stand up to. It’s that we are too scared to stand up to that standard.

What I guess I’m trying to say is that abstinence can let you have a happier life and it also can keep you in school. To sum it up, abstaining from sex can keep you from STDs, AIDS, and other sexually transmitted diseases that may cause problems for you in the future. Please consider that even though I’m 18 years old I can make a big difference to the world if they heard this. Thank you for considering.

Bibliography
Fox, Annie. The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating. Minneapolis: Free Spirit
Publishing, 2005.