Abstinence Is the Right Choice
I hear people talk constantly about sex and
how much they enjoy it. They then ask me if I have ever had
sex and I reply no. A lot of people I know feel ashamed about
being virgins, but I am not ashamed. It's my choice to remain
abstinent and I feel it's the right choice to make. I will
wait until I am married to engage in sexual activity and I
feel that more people should do the same.
Sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies, STD's,
and emotional heartache. I know that being in high school
I am not ready for a child and I hope to never catch an STD.
I listen to my friends talk about how they regret having sex
because their girlfriend or boyfriend caused them so much
heartache and they wish they remained virgins. The truth is
virginity is something that once it's gone you can never get
it back as much as you would like. Yes I know people get caught
up in the heat of the moment at times, but I feel adolescents
aren't ready for the emotional as well as the physical consequences
of sex. There are too many STD's out there and a lot more
we don't know about. More and more teenagers are getting pregnant
everyday and the majority of them don't want to be.
Can you think of what parents go through when
they realize their kids are having sex? I know I would never
want to embarrass my family by having sex. Just imagine your
father or mother hearing their child is having a child. My
parents think highly of me and I wouldn't want to disappoint
them by making a mistake I know I will later regret. Most
teenagers who get pregnant rely on their parents to take care
of their child, but the truth is most parents are barely financially
able to take care of their own children let alone their children's
children. Some teenagers think if they use a condom they will
not get pregnant. What if the condom busts, falls off, or
has something else wrong with it? Other teenagers think if
they take birth control they will not get pregnant. What if
your body doesn't respond to the pill or you miss a day taking
the pill? When teenagers get pregnant they have to face emotional
decisions. Some have abortions which can take a while to get
over, and some place their baby up for adoptions. I enjoy
hanging out with my friends. I would not be able to hang out
with my friends or enjoy my teenage years if I would have
to stay home and care for a baby. I say the best way to prevent
having to make these decisions is to abstain from sex. Rumors
can lead to suicide, violence, isolation, or even murder.
I know some the people I associate with gossip about who's
sleeping with whom. Everyone around school knows who everyone
has had sex with. Nothing we do is 100% private. I know if
I was having sex, I wouldn't want a lot of people knowing
I was and who it was with.
Most religions prefer for people to wait until
marriage to have sex. Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism,
Islam, and other religions encourage abstinence. Most people
belong to a religion and even people who have no religion
practice abstinence because they see it as an ethical thing
to do.
The truth is no girl wants a guy who's had
sex with a lot of girls and no guy wants a girl who's had
sex with a lot of boys. When I get married my husband will
be the first, the only, and the last guy I have sex with,
He'll appreciate me more for that. He will feel more comfortable
about being with me if he knows I'm pure. My virginity is
the best wedding gift that I can give my husband. The person
you're with might not want to wait to have sex at first, but
if they truly care about you the way they say they do then
they'll realize you're worth the wait. Making the decision
to abstain from sex until I am married makes me proud. I want
to focus on my future by making good grades, to be financially
secure, and know that I have something special to offer my
future husband by abstaining from sex.
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