Abstinence
My parents tell me that "The safest sex
is not only abstinence, but sex after marriage!"
When you hear the word abstinence what comes to your mind?
Some would say absolutely NO SEX until marriage, or that abstinence
is the best type of birth control. Well, by definition abstinence
is refraining from sexual intercourse. The real question is
why should I consider abstinence until I am married?
The first thing that comes to mind is sexually transmitted
diseases (STDs) such as AIDS, Herpes, Crabs, Syphilis and
more. These diseases can affect you physically and mentally,
and in some cases, for the rest of your life. AIDS is a real
killer that can put you six feet under.
Another reason why you should consider abstinence and wait
to have sex after marriage is because of the possibility of
an unwanted pregnancy. Taking care of a baby is a big responsibility
that will affect you for the rest of your life. It's a responsibility
that usually falls on the female. The emotional involvement
of having sex may leave one or both feeling guilty and used,
especially the female. Your respect and reputation usually
goes out the window when others find out that you are having
sex. Don't believe the lies that little boys or girls tell
you about sex, who have not even experienced life. They will
say to you just try it one time or everybody is doing it and
nothing bad will happen to you. They may even say you are
weird. It only takes one time to catch a disease or get pregnant
and your life is changed forever.
Then there are those who say dry sex and oral sex is not really
sex because there is no sexual intercourse. Think about it.
In oral sex you can still get all of the diseases you can
with regular sex. The difference is that your throat becomes
infected rather than the male or female sex organs. Dry sex
will not make you sick or cause pregnancy but it is the gateway
to oral sex or regular sex. Things happen and people lose
control of their passions and reasoning while engaged in heavy
petting and dry sex. Real abstinence includes abstaining from
the gateways of oral sex and dry sex.
In light of all that I have said, your virginity is a precious
gift that is easily lost or stolen. You must be very careful
about who you let in the inner circle of your emotions if
you want to save your virginity for the true love of your
life, your husband or your wife.
A wise person once told me,
"Your sexuality is a precious gift
From this day forward
Treasure and protect it until you marry
Because you are worth waiting for!"
And, you are worth waiting for. THE CHOICE IS YOURS, so chose
carefully who you want to be that special one to share your
life and virginity with. Until that time abstinence is the
best way to go in life.
Thank You
Reference
Web sites:
www.yahoo.com
www.epigee.org/guidelabstain.html
www.abstinencebetterchoice.com
www.journeyworks.com/abstinence.htm
Brochures:
Journeyworks Publishing
Luann characters @ GEC Inc. Distributed by UFS, Inc.
Interviews:
Marvin and Sandra McCoy
Pastor
Teachers
Spring Creek High School students
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